After I went to BlogHer, I came home feeling very deflated about blogging.
I spent a lot of time talking to other bloggers and exchanging business cards.
While I was there networking it hit me that there are a shit ton of bloggers out there and they all want to make money with their blogs and be the next big thing in the blogosphere.
Reality is that not every blogger is going to make it to superstar status.
After I got home all of those connections I made at BlogHer led to nothing for me but a few new Twitter followers who maybe clicked on my blog once or twice.
This time, when I went to Blissdom, I decided to not look at the big picture of the conference.
I wasn’t going to focus on the 700 or so bloggers there trying to make it big.
Instead I concentrated on a handful of women I really wanted to meet. People whose blogs I had been reading, talking to on Twitter, texting, and Skyping with for months.
I spent hours with these woman, talking, sharing drinks, and even dancing (or planking) on stage.
I handed out maybe 20 business cards and brought home about the same from people that I had met at the conference.
For me, this was perfect.
I now have real life connections with bloggers. Memories that we will share forever. These are better than business cards and knowing someone as an acquaintance.
So, the lesson I am trying to pass on to you from my experiences at these two conferences is that the blogosphere is a massive place. If you focus on how many people are out there you will be unhappy or maybe even quit blogging. You will realize you are a very tiny fish in the big huge ocean.
Instead, focus on yourself, your blog, and building solid connections with people you enjoy reading and talking to online.
These will be the people that always read your blog, talk to you on Twitter, comment on your Facebook page, support you when you need it, and think of you when they see opportunities that are perfect for you.
Quality over quantity.
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