After I had Miss Fancy Pants I went back to work when she was 6 weeks old because I had no choice. I needed to work for the income and the health insurance.
Fast-forward 5 + years and I was pregnant with my second child. I was working over 40 hours a week, in school full time, had a 5 year old, and owned a house.
My future makeup artist was born in May and I began my 12 weeks of maternity leave. I loved staying home with the kids (although Fancy Pants was in PreK part time). I was able to sleep in, take care of the kids, the house was (almost) always clean, and I cooked. I was becoming an excellent housewife (nothing like I am today).
The plan was for me to go back to work after my maternity leave somewhere around the beginning of August, which was also when my next semester of school would start.
I worried silently about how I was going to balance family life while working 40 + hours a week and going to school full time.
This thought constantly freaked me out. I knew there was a possibility that I would break under the stress and ultimately my family would suffer.
I also went to the doctor and was told that there was a possibility I had cancer.
Nothing like the threat of cancer to make you re-evaluate your life.
So, my husband and I went through our finances over and over.
We looked at how our life used to be when I was working compared with how it was when I was on maternity leave.
We knew financially it would be a struggle for me to stay home.
It didn’t matter.
Our family was happy with me not working.
That’s all that was important.
We made this decision over 2 years ago and I have never regretted staying home to be tortured by my children.
P.S. the cancer scare turned out to be a false alarm.